Menopause is not a break – especially not for libido.
Even when the body changes, the need for closeness, arousal, and touch remains.
Many women rediscover their sexuality during this phase of life – more consciously, freely, and independently.
At loveiu.ch we believe that desire has no expiration date.
It changes, it matures – and with the right mindfulness, it can become even more intense.
What happens in the body – and what that means for pleasure
During menopause, estrogen levels drop. This can lead to the vaginal lining becoming thinner, drier, or more sensitive.
Blood flow in the pelvis also decreases, and some women experience less spontaneous arousal.
But: That doesn't mean the desire disappears.
Arousal simply needs a little more time, more warmth – and more awareness of one's own body.
Many women describe their sexuality as becoming more emotional, calmer, and deeper during this time. The focus shifts: away from performance pressure and towards pleasure, closeness, and intimacy.
When sex feels different – and what helps
Dry mucous membranes, burning or a feeling of tension are common symptoms during menopause.
This is because less moisture is produced – especially during sex or masturbation.
The solution is simple and effective: moisture and lubricant .
Gentle, skin-friendly lubricants make the difference between discomfort and pleasure.
They provide protection, reduce friction, and bring lightness back into the experience.
Water-based lubricants are particularly suitable – they are skin-friendly, safe with toys and condoms, and feel natural.
Silicone-based lubricants stay smooth for longer and are ideal if you like longer sessions or suffer from increased dryness.
Desire needs attention – not youth.
Perhaps the most important insight of menopause:
Desire doesn't arise automatically – it grows with awareness, self-care, and openness.
Now is the perfect time to rediscover your body.
What feels different today compared to before?
What kind of touch do you enjoy?
Are there any areas you've barely noticed so far?
Self-love is not a substitute for sex, but a form of it.
When you touch yourself – mindfully, without a goal, without pressure – you learn what you truly like.
Toys during menopause – sensual aids with an effect
Toys are not a fashion trend, but tools for self-perception.
Especially during menopause, they can help to promote blood circulation, keep tissue elastic, and strengthen arousal.
1. Vibrators with soft vibration
Perfect for activating sensitivity and bringing warmth to the body.
Vibration gently stimulates the nerves and promotes blood circulation.
2. G-spot and pulse toys
Targeted stimulation of the internal pleasure zones can open up new dimensions.
An ergonomically shaped vibrator or dildo, applied with light pressure to the front vaginal wall, activates the deeper pleasure center.
3. Love beads & pelvic floor training
Regular training strengthens the muscles, increases blood circulation and thus also increases the sensation of pleasure – as a side effect.
4. Clitoral stimulators & air pressure toys
Many women report that this gentle, pulsating stimulation is particularly pleasant because it requires no rubbing – perfect for sensitive skin.
Mindfulness instead of pressure
In this phase of life, everything can become easier – including sex.
Mindfulness means taking time for yourself without having to achieve anything.
Sexual energy is not a "drive" that comes and goes – it is a flow. If you let it flow without forcing it, you will be surprised how vibrant it remains.
Create rituals for yourself:
A warm bath, music, scented candles, body oil – not as preparation, but as an invitation to yourself.
Your body responds to tenderness, not stress.
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Desire & Partnership in Menopause
In relationships, menopause can sometimes be a challenge – but also an opportunity.
Open communication is key: Say what you need, what feels good, and what you want.
Many couples discover new forms of intimacy during this time: massages, shared toys, slow exploration instead of fast routine.
Desire is not a competition, but a connection.
When desire disappears
There are phases in which libido simply decreases – and that is completely normal.
Stress, lack of sleep, medication or hormonal fluctuations can play a role.
If you continue to feel uncomfortable for an extended period, talk openly with your doctor or a sex therapist.
Sometimes, small hormonal support measures or herbal preparations can help to bring the body back into balance.
But often it is enough to simply allow yourself to be curious again.
Nutrition, exercise & body energy
Desire is also a matter of energy.
What you eat, how you move, how you sleep – all of this influences your well-being.
Exercise (yoga, Pilates, walks) strengthens the pelvic floor and blood circulation.
Healthy fats (nuts, avocado, olive oil) promote hormone balance.
Water keeps mucous membranes supple.
Mindful eating strengthens self-esteem – pleasure begins in the mind and continues in the body.
Confident desire: Your body belongs to you
Menopause does not mean loss – but freedom.
No worries about contraception, no pressure to "perform".
You can experience pleasure however you want – alone or with others.
Many women experience a deep, self-determined sexuality during this phase because they finally allow themselves to enjoy it – without comparison, without shame.
Desire is part of your identity – and it will remain as long as you open yourself to it.
Conclusion: Sensuality remains – it just changes its pace.
Menopause is not the end of sexuality, but a transformation.
With a little mindfulness, care and curiosity, you can turn this phase of life into a new journey of discovery – physically, emotionally and sexually.
Lubricant , toys and conscious self-touch are not aids "against" aging, but invitations to more feeling.
Desire is ageless.
She lives inside you – you just have to welcome her back.
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